From day one, my daughter has been a force.⁣⁣

We were told not to be alarmed if she didn’t make noise immediately, because apparently that is pretty typical of water births. I don’t remember much from those fuzzy moments, but I’ll never forget her cries as she crashed through the water to announce her arrival to the world!⁣⁣
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Today, at two-years-old, one of her favourite activities is to tell everyone what to do. “Sit here.” Hold this.” The other day she even told me to “Phone Liz.” - the lovely Mama at her daycare, because I couldn’t figure out which song she wanted me to play off iTunes 🤣 (Liz knew, by the way). ⁣

Pretty basic toddler stuff but she really is... bossy. And we’re not supposed to call girls that anymore.⁣⁣
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Except, it’s kind of what I love most about her. I love that she is decisive and confident and will probably grow up to be the friend who just picks the damn restaurant when no one can decide.⁣⁣
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Maybe it’s okay for a girl, who will one day be a woman, to exhibit this bold characteristic. And perhaps I shouldn’t have to tip toe around naming it.⁣⁣
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If my job is simply to never crush this part of her, then why deny it?⁣⁣
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I need to foster it by teaching her about respect and empathy and consent, so that what begins as very developmentally appropriate “bossiness” in early childhood, becomes true leadership in adulthood.⁣⁣
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To me, that is a big part of raising my daughter as a feminist; Teaching her that all the parts of herself are good and can find a positive application in this world.⁣⁣
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What do you think? Is bossy ok? And no matter the sex or gender of your child, are you striving to raise them as feminists?⁣⁣

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